Why Forgiveness is Important to Your Health

It is easier to bear a grudge against an enemy, easier to build walls than to let them go. Far easier it is to bask in righteous indignation than to admit that perhaps in the larger scheme of things, we are not all that right; perhaps we might even be wrong. Sam Keen once said,"Our problem lies not in our technology, but in our minds, in our ancient tendency to create enemies in our imagination."

This is the function of our ancient reptilian brain, the stalker and enemy maker that lies curled up in our amygdala. Our ancient brain builds fortresses and moats, dredging reptilian memories from mud and walling them within our cerebellum as conditioned reflexes, unthinking, unconscious and primitive. But thanks to our prefrontal cortex, we have the ability to reign in our emotions, view the situation with equanimity and perhaps even go as far as forgiving our enemy.

According to the Mayo Clinic, forgiveness is good for our health. Studies show that anger creates a whole host of nasty effects on our bodies. It suppresses the immune system; it suppresses thyroid function, slowing down the body's metabolism; it impairs the brain's thinking ability and it jeopardizes our ability to sleep. Anger stalls the body's normal processes of repair and recovery. It contributes to the clenching of the jaws and eventual problems with teeth and jaw joints. It increases tension headaches and joint pain.

Most of all, anger elevates heart rate and blood pressure; it increases muscle tension as the body contends with a sense of losing control. Cases of people literally dying from anger are not unusual. Anger can constrict heart muscle and vessels and trigger a heart attack.

Studies also show that men have a more difficult time forgiving than women do. Women have been socialized into being more empathetic than men. Women also find it easier to talk problems over and move towards a common resolution. Women have learned to network since kindergarten; they have learned to build on the basis of cooperation rather than vengeance.

What happens to our body when we release anger and welcome forgiveness?

Our muscles relax. We breathe more easily. Our blood vessels open up; more oxygen enters our bloodstream. We feel as though a load has been taken off our chest. We sleep more deeply, more peacefully at night. Our body processes achieve equilibrium again and our energy fields become unblocked. We are no longer pouring energy into building walls; we can now re-direct energy towards building relationships, coherence and love.

We can all learn to forgive by concentrating on the present. Live in the moment and let past wrongs go; let go of all future worries. Regular meditation sessions can help us redirect our mind and body to the present moment.

All spiritual traditions emphasize the importance of forgiveness because healing, both personal and communal, cannot take place without forgiveness.

Why Meditation Works

I know now why meditation makes you calm and relaxed. Studies have shown the benefits of meditation which include stress reduction, a sense of well-being and better health.

Meditation requires two things : alertness and abandon. These two contrary positions placed together cancel each other out resulting in a sense of "freedom in the void."

Because it requires attention and alertness, meditation increases brain activity in the frontal lobes. In essence, it develops the executive functions. At the same time, it develops the "letting go" that results when attention becomes rhythmic and steady.

The juxtaposition of these two contrary movements during the meditation process accounts for the deep release that comes after 10 minutes of sustained attention.

Four Ways to Renew An Aging Brain

We know that care of the brain is essential for the grandkids. What about us--the almost or over sixtysomethings?

What goes for the little ones goes for us as well!

My mother used to say that her brain was stuck in cement. She could never learn as quickly as we (the children) did because her brain had hardened with age. This assumption about the brain has been tossed aside as another urban legend down the dust. New research shows that neuroplasticity is a feature of all brains, young and old. What this means is that whether you are 90 or 2, you are capable of learning new tricks.

Neuroplasticity refers to the brain’s ability to adapt to its environment. It can generate new neuronal circuitry, new cells, compensate for weakness by replacing malfunctioning connections and cells with new ones. In fact, nothing in the brain is hardwired. Like the salamander that can regenerate its tail, the brain can re-grow new neurons. It is this compensating mechanism that points the way to brain longevity. We need not consign ourselves to the fate of slow and palsied years. Aging is not synonymous with the loss of memory and cognitive skills. What can we do to ensure a thriving brain in our senior years?

Break Out Of Routine
When King Lear in his madness exclaims that the world as he knew it had lost its footing and that we should ”look” with our ears, he was using a metaphor that has since become a physiological fact: scientists have found that blindness from birth can trigger the development of a visual cortex that can hear and feel. The brain area devoted to sight has been conscripted by the auditory function. People blind since birth are literally capable of hearing with their eyes or looking with their ears. We can improve our multi-dexterity by doing something different: take a new route to work, travel to a new country, learn a new language, and learn a new skill. Doing something out of the ordinary forces your brain to carve new routes, increase synaptic connections and over-ride obsolete circuits.

Join or Develop a Running Program
Research done on mice has shed light on the relationship between aerobic exercise and brain regeneration. Mice trained on running wheels produced two to three times as many neurons as their non-running counterparts. Recent studies on the effect of aerobic activity on brain function have turned out some interesting facts: aerobic training increases brain volume in older adults while non-aerobic activities such as stretching and toning do not produce the same effect; seniors who are aerobically trained seemed more capable of sustained attention; they are less susceptible to distractions. Cardiovascular fitness that comes from running and cycling seems to provide natural protection to the central nervous system and cognitive functions of older adults. There is more. Tests also reveal that seniors engaged in aerobic training scored significantly better on neuropsychological tests than their non-aerobic colleagues. Cardio workouts like running seem to dissolve the effects of negative stress on the brain and bolster the body’s immune system.

Cultivate a Passion
Faced with a challenging situation, our brains are forced to develop new strategies and new neural circuits. But faced with a challenging situation that we love, that excites us in a positive way, our brains are persuaded to forge new neural conversations between different parts of the brain. Passion provides the lubricating catalyst for increased synaptic firing and connections, a situation popularized by the saying, “Cells that fire together stay wired together.” This is the reason we learn so much more rapidly when we are excited by the material we work with, be it a new hobby, a book in the making or a new business. If, as studies suggest, aging is caused by a dramatic reduction in functional connections within the brain, then cultivating a passion is a sure way to fire up a disrupted system.


Meditate
Focused attention during meditation alters the structure of the brain. Studies show that consistent meditators activate the prefrontal cortex that is located at the front of the brain; at the same time, the limbic section of the brain located at the back, slows down. It is this attention that promotes neuroplasticity in the brain. Practicing a skill on autopilot has no effect on the brain. The brain’s confrontation with something new, the brain’s ability to focus attention on something unknown promotes neurogenesis or new cell growth. Moreover, meditation increases the thickness of the cortex, the outer area of the brain most susceptible to age-related thinning. This increase in thickness is often associated with the ability to integrate emotions and thought, the left brain and the right brain.

The issue with healthy aging is not so much skin rejuvenated with botox or liposuction of flabby tissues, but a healthy and cognitively sharp brain. This we can have at our disposal without a huge expense. All we need to do are four things: break out of routine, go for a run, nurture a passion and meditate.