Help Your Child With Anger

Anger management in children needs to be taught at an early age as children can often get angry. For instance, if a child skips in line while waiting to go down the slide, the child(ren) skipped may all get very upset. Most adults waiting at a courtesy counter in line would become upset, too, if someone barged in ahead of them.

The best method to handle anger is to let the person who skipped know that you were ahead of him. Do not let the person just skip and hold the anger in. Many people and children who are angry hold in their anger and then it can blow-up into a full-blown temper tantrum.

How Parents React When Angry
As parents, we have a responsibility to be role models to our children. The next time you become angry try to look at yourself and see how you react. Do you throw things and swear as loud as you can? Do you stomp around and scream? Do you hit the wall or worse? This kind of behavior will not help your child with anger.

If you exhibit violent behavior when angry, your child knows this. You may think he or she is not watching, but you can be sure that he or she is hearing you. He or she is learning it from you. A parent must show the ability to act calmly in the face of anger. Remember you are your child’s role model whether you like it or not. He or she lives with you and learns many things from you including how to handle anger.

How to Handle Anger as a Parent
The moment you become upset or angry, stop whatever you are doing. Stop screaming. Stop yelling. Stay calm. Take in ten slow breaths. Yes, this is hard for you, but your children will benefit from watching you actively engaged in staying calm; they will remember your reaction and learn how to control their anger. By showing restraint and control, you help your child with anger. Talking things out with your child ( if the child is the source of anger) or a friend can help you find out deep down what is causing your anger. Do not hold in anger. This only increases its violence. People need to release stress for proper anger management.

Summary on Helping Your Child with Anger
If you find your child reacting violently when he or she is angry, take a look at yourself and see how you handle anger. The best method is to stop yelling and start talking about what is making you angry. Always remember you are a teacher to your child ; you show your child how to control his or her anger. If you can help your child with anger at a young age, you most likely will have an easier time when the child becomes a teenager. Your child will be able to handle his or her anger responsibly as an adult.